Advanced Level
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How forgiveness makes you healthier, who needs it most, and which offenses are hardest to get over. Some researchers suggest we’re seeing more public figures seeking forgiveness because we’re becoming more aware of the importance of achieving reconciliation. There are different kinds of forgiveness. Decisional forgiveness is a sincere decision to change the way you intend to behave toward someone who has wronged you, even though you may still feel negatively toward the person. Emotional forgiveness is a change in the way you feel toward this person—resentment giving way to positive emotions like empathy, sympathy, compassion, and even love.
For a healthier heart, be more forgiving
When people are reminded of grudges, their heart rate and blood pressure can increase. Forgiveness, on the other hand, has been linked to better heart health. Plus, you’ll sleep better when you let bygones be just that. But keep in mind you can’t fake it: Researchers believe that the health benefits associated directly with forgiving apply only to emotional, not decisional, forgiveness.
Extroverts need forgiveness
Outgoing types are more proactive in seeking out forgiveness than introverts are and also, notably, quicker to forgive others. Here are more hidden strengths of an extrovert personality: Introverts tend to be initially more concerned with forgiving themselves than making amends with a person they’ve offended.
Don’t underestimate the words I’m sorry
Studies have found that repeatedly asking for forgiveness will eventually extract it from others—even if you don’t really mean it and even if the person you’ve wronged knows you don’t really mean it.
But beware of betrayal
The most common type of unforgiven offense is betrayal, including affairs, deceit, broken promises, and divulged secrets.
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Elementary Level
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How forgiveness makes you healthier, who needs it most, and which mistakes are hardest to forget. Some researchers suggest the reason why we see many famous people asking for forgiveness is because we’re becoming more aware of the importance of ending an argument. There are different kinds of forgiveness. Decisional forgiveness is an honest decision to change the way you have decided to behave toward someone who has done something wrong to you, even though you may still have negative feelings. Emotional forgiveness is a change in the way you feel toward this person—hatred will be replaced by positive emotions like empathy, sympathy, care, and even love.
For a healthier heart, be more forgiving
When people have feelings of dislike for someone, their heart rate and blood pressure can increase. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is related to better heart health. Plus, you’ll sleep better when you forget about the past. But remember that you can’t fake it: Researchers believe that only emotional forgiveness has health benefits.
Extroverts need forgiveness
Outgoing types want to ask for forgiveness more than introverts do. They are also very quicker to forgive others. Here are more hidden strengths of an extrovert personality: Introverts are likely to be first more worried about forgiving themselves than saying sorry to a person they’ve offended.
Don’t underestimate the words I’m sorry
Studies have found that asking forgiveness many times will finally make others forgive you—even if you don’t really mean it and even if the person you’ve offended knows you don’t really mean it.
But beware of betrayal
Cheating is the most common type of mistake and it can’t be forgiven. It includes affairs, deception, broken promises, and revealing secrets.
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ترجمه فارسی
درمورد بخشش بیشتر بدونین
بخشش چطور شما رو سالمتر میکنه، کی از همه بیشتر به بخشش نیاز داره، و فراموش کردن کدوم دلخوریها از همه سخت تره. بعضی محققان میگن این روزها چهره های معروف بیشتری طلب بخشش میکنن چون به اهمیت آشتی پی بردن. بخشش انواع مختلف داره. بخشش تصمیم گیری شده یک تصمیم قلبیه تا رفتارتون رو در قبال فردی که در حقتون بدی کرده عوض کنین اگر چه هنوز نسبت به اون فرد حس منفی دارین. بخشش احساسی تغییر در احساسی هست که نسبت به این فرد دارین – دلخوری جای خودش رو به احساسات مثبتی مثل همدلی یا همدردی میده.
برای داشتن یک قلب سالمتر، بخشنده تر باشین
وقتی افراد کینه ها و دلخوری ها رو به یاد میارن، ضربان قلب و فشار خونشون ممکنه زیاد بشه. از طرف دیگه، بخشش با سلامت بیشتر قلب رابطه داره. بعلاوه، وقتی میذارین گذشته ها همونجا بمونن بهتر میخوابین. ولی یادتون باشه نمیتونین صرفا وانمود به این کار کنین: محققان معتقدن فواید سلامتی که مستقیما با بخشش رابطه دارن فقط به بخشش احساسی مربوط میشه نه بخشش احساسی.
برونگراها به بخشش نیاز دارن
برای طلب بخشش، تیپ های برونگرا نسبت به درونگراها پیشتازتر هستن و خصوصا سریعتر دیگران رو می بخشن. چندتا از نقاط قوت پنهان شخصیت برونگراها عبارتند از: درونگراها بیشتر به دنبال بخشیدن خودشون هستن تا ترمیم رابطشون با کسی که رنجوندنش.
عبارت "ببخشید" رو دست کم نگیرین
مطالعات نشون دادن که مرتبا طلب بخشش کردن نهایتا باعث میشه بقیه شمارو ببخشن– حتی اگه این خواسته قلبی شما نباشه و حتی اگر فردی که او رو رنجوندین بدونه که طلب بخشش شما از صمیم قلب نیست.
مراقب خیانت باشین
شایع ترین لغزشی که بخشیده نمیشه خیانته که شامل خیانت در رابطه، فریبکاری، زیرقول زدن و فاش کردن رازهای بقیه میشه.
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وقتی کسی رو می بخشین چه حسی دارین؟ یادتون نره واسمون کامنت بذارین. |
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اگه دوست داری بدونی چطور با خودت مهربون تر باشی اینجا کلیک کن |
